2. Don't ever have expectations for/in people. If you put your faith or expectations in someone you essentially are setting yourself up for disappointment. This applies for anything from work, friendships and especially relationships. While some may argue that this is not always true, its true MOST of the time. For example, you put your faith in your best friend to always be there for you but when the time comes and they are not there. Or perhaps you put expectations in a woman and the relationship hoping to have something special but one day for no reason she dumps or changes her feelings towards you without reason. You will save yourself a lot of disappointment if you had low or NO expectations to begin with.
3. Getting older is not always a bad thing. While I wish I can still say I am in my early or mid twenties (because it sounds so nice and young) getting older definitely has its perks. For one, I am more at peace with myself no longer trying to prove something all the time. Emotionally, I am happier more confident and learn how to manage my feelings better. I appreciate and love myself and with that I am a naturally a happier person. Getting older means more wisdom and experience and you finally reach an age where you know yourself and develop yourself as a the "real you."
4. Every man should work out. No exceptions. Working out does magic for your body, looks, health, confidence, your overall happiness and how you feel and value yourself. Working out is a form of stress management. Whether it was a bad day or you're feeling a burning tension inside, working out releases that tension physically through the form of lifting weights, cardio, situps, etc. You will walk out feeling great after. Trust me on this one.
5. Read one hour on day or at least a few hours a week. Reading improves your knowledge, intelligence and can helps with self improvement. I currently read as much as I can, anything from a travel adventure/sex blog, how to sex book, men's fitness and health mags, to business articles. It expands your horizons, educates you, offers tips on life, business, dating and sex, and gives you upbeat topics to talk about in conversations.
6. Ever had that feeling where you feel like your efforts and kind deeds go unnoticed or unappreciated and your being taken for granted? Its not a good feeling. With that being said, appreciate people when they do things for you. Sometimes a warm smile and a kind show of appreciation can make a whole lot of difference.
7. Date inter-racially. I am fed up with Asian men only desiring and pursuing Asian women further putting these slant eye cunts on a pedestal. Asian American or Asian women for the most part believe they are cut from a better slice of the pie, looking down on Asian men while harboring self prejudice in themselves and their race. There are plenty of non Asian women out there that are open minded and sweet with a lot to offer. Stop believing the stereotype that no White women want Asian men. That's just something that is embedded in our culture to oppress Asian men. Get your shit together and be a man with something to offer. Starting today, hit on at least one Non Asian woman a week, then as you get more comfortable, raise the number to 2 or 3 or more a week. Eventually one Non Asian woman would bite if you use decent game and take care of your appearance.
8. It's a fact that if you have sex with a woman and want to continue seeing her consistently, you must call/text her the next day so she would know your into her for more than just sex. However, one thing I learned from gaming is even if you don't penetrate her but have success in the form of anything physical, you still should call or text her the next day. For instance, if you have a heavy make out session, or squeeze her tits and grab her ass multiple times, or go as far as finger her or get her naked and fool around, oral, anything short of penetration then you should call her. If you don't, you run a risk of not getting a second date or seeing her again, or even worse she doesn't even respond to your texts/calls and just ignore you. I had this happen to me a few times already with one girl telling me that it was because I didn't call her the next day so she came to the conclusion that I was only into her for the sex. That was kind of true with that girl but not for a Korean American girl I recently dated and had some physical success with grabbing ass and tits and heavy make outs on our first date. Shame, because it had potential to be a nice notch.
Note: This doesn't apply for the standard kiss on the lips or the gentleman few kisses at her front door after you drop her off from your date. Those you can wait the standard 2 or 3 days before contacting her. That's if you only want to see her again of course :)
9. Don't be to over apologetic. Ever have someone say excuse me to you because you may happen to be standing or blocking the way unintentionally and the first word that comes out of your mouth is "sorry" before you move? We all have, including me. When you come to think about it, why are you apologizing for in the first place? Your not placed purposely in his way so why do you need apologize for your existence in a public area. He doesn't own the public area and neither do you so don't apologize and just move out of the way. Apologizing for no reason makes you look weak, passive and beta. The worst part is subconsciously it will affect your behavior and the way you view yourself. You will start apologizing for asking questions, like "sorry to bother you, but I wanted to ask you, etc. This one might be a tough one to understand, but just think of it this way; are strong men constantly apologizing to people when they haven't done anything wrong? Do black guys apologize to you when you say excuse me? Asian men are viewed as weak already, don't make it worse by apologizing for everything.
10. Pacific Rim is a racist and discriminating movie. As in typical Hollywood fashion, the movie discriminates against Asian men. For those of you who've seen the movie, did you notice that although the movie takes place in Hong Kong (an Asian country and city) NOT one single Asian male actor even has a line or a part in saving his own people in a city being ransacked by Godzilla like creatures. The only scenes where there were Asian men were the scene where Charlie Hunnam was kicking three Asian guys asses in a stick fight and the scene where the first the robot being controlled by the Asian men pilots were the first ones killed without putting up a fight. Actually they did have a line but it wasn't even in fucking English. So the movie really involves around White and Black men saving yellow asses in Hong Kong with the slant civilians helpless and running for their lives. The only Asian actor is an Asian woman who has an obvious attraction to the white protagonist (Charlie Hunnam) secretly watching him change while getting excited and has a silent but obvious attraction for him. The movie goes on to show a successful White man/Asian woman team up and corny somewhat romance to save the Hong Kong while there is not a single Asian man to be found anywhere. This must have been an ego trip movie for all those Asian woman, White men couples that went to watch the movie thinking they can relate to the movie portraying that WM/AW are some kind superior union that also applies in real life. More smacks in the face for Asian men were roles with Chinese characters and Chinese names were being played by Ron Perlman (white) and another Hispanic actor. Even the Black leader in the movie had more lines in Japanese then Asian men even had in English. (which were none). For those of you who hadn't watched it; Do so only if you can handle the discrimination against Asian men in that movie. Personally, I think Asian men should boycott the movie and be vocal about the discrimination towards Asian men.
Instead of constantly pointing out discrimination by Hollywood towards Asian men lets also recognize the ones that show love for our brethren.
Glen and Maggie from the Walking Dead. They had the first AM/WW sex scene that I have ever seen on the American screen.
Sung Kang in his role as Han with his on screen Fast and Furious girlfriend. As per wikipedia Sung Kang stated as an American actor, one of his biggest dislikes about Hollywood are the stereotypes that East Asian actors face when being cast in a role. Kudos to Sung Kang who takes roles that portray Asian men in a positive light.
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I would add..
ReplyDelete11.) Travel -- Buy a ticket and go abroad. You can start basic research in the internet, get a notepad then write facts about your target destination. You can get a good deal via Barclays credit card if you are prompt with your payment. Travel helps expand your horizon. It will give you an insight about understanding your environment. It will challenge you to grow into a more global person with a global perspective. You will also meet girls. In fact, I can tell how well I'll do in a place within 20 minutes arriving in my destination. After traveling, I don't ever want to be in USA.
Good one minority guy. Traveling is indeed one the pleasures of life.
ReplyDeletePerhaps number 12 can be: How to finance traveling abroad for long periods of time without a job. That would be a good one, one that I might need your help with.
Keep us updated on your current travels. Have fun, live life and get ass :)
Preach the good news brother lol.. I especially like #4, I've been such a different type of person ever since I started working out and doing serious strength training. I've learned so much about myself and what I'm capable of when I'm pushing my body to it's limit and then realizing I've surpassed my previous best. I also believe #4 helps enormously with #7 in your list as well.
ReplyDeleteYeah..about #10, the Wolverine movie was full of the WM saving the Asians and Asian women swooning over WM thing. Neither bothered me much, just that I don't have a thing for Asian women so they come off as blank characters to me.
I think this is also great advice
ReplyDeletehttp://www.abcsofattraction.com/blog/5-tips-to-being-a-confident-and-alpha-asian-man/
I agree with you, number 4 helps with accomplishing number 7. Girls will give you attention; and mix your new physique and confidence with a little game and you will find yourself hitting on white girls that are above your standards. I hit on a beautiful Californian Blonde white girl and a gorgeous Russian lately. I got both their numbers and took one out on a date.
ReplyDeleteI’m going keep pursing Non Asian women until laying them becomes second nature, like the way I feel with Asian women.
About the Wolverine movie, I wasn’t aware it was another one of those movies. Hollywood just feels the need to make the White men/Asian women union while leaving out Asian men. Its like the writers are full-fulling some kind of yellow fetish/fantasy they have going on with themselves. I do admit, it does bother me. Although I’m not a weak passive Asian man it bothers me to see my kind portrayed as second class citizen males while WM/AW hookup in American movies. That’s just racist but no one recognizes Its just a culture norm to put down Asian men in the media.
Dude.. there's no conspiracy theory, just act like a man, live the life you want to live. You don't need to defend the Asian kind, an Asian woman would gladly throw you under a bus at the first opportunity anyways. Do things on an individual level, I don't hate white guys for cashing in on an Asian woman's white worshiping, hell, if I was in their position, I'd be doing the exact same thing.
ReplyDeleteWhen I'm interacting with people on a daily basis, I get such positive responses from people when I'm being sociable, outgoing and nonjudgmental. I think seeing a successful Asian guy rubs self-hating Asian chick like no other and I love seeing that. Might I add, The Americanized Asian woman is the only type of person who gives me the stink eye when I'm out and about. I just opened the door for one today, nicely I might add, and all I got was a stink eye (very typical of them). I've grown to appreciate non-asian women so much, they are infinitely simpler to deal with and less prudish and materialistic by far. I think traditional Asian woman would be the exception, but I'm not culturally compatible with them, so I don't it working.
White girls: they're sweet, and open minded, but you can't be a meek nerdy asian guy if you want to be successful with white girls. They're values are like this, they like outgoing, fit and good looking guys with good values. If you have a carefree fluid personality, and you workout hard at the gym, you won't have trouble with white women. You don't need to drive a BMW to ask a sweet, good looking girl out, just be confident, outgoing and fit. Lots of exceptions of course, but you get the idea.
Latinas - can be traditional minded, very open minded if you are nice and outgoing. Very non-materialistic, family oriented and loves fit guys with a tan.
Hollywood doesn't change the situation on the ground. It has virtually no impact on how we interact with each other on a day to day basis, keep that in mind, and it makes it so much easier to ignore the weird asian fetish. Unless you're a nerdy white guy, who needs an ego boost. You're not a nerdy white guy are you?
I agree with the third paragraph about white women. That goes for pretty much all types of modern women today. AA women, stink eye. I know what u mean. I call it the chink roll. As in they roll their chinky eyes
ReplyDeleteMan, I cannot tell you how much I relate I this. In regards to Pacific Rim( and Wolverine), every critic only addresses the racism argument to neuter it, giving the universal perspective of the white man. Everytime I have talked about the racism, only fellow asian guys agree; white guys and asian girls don't even see anything wrong.
ReplyDeleteGuys, we must realize that the white establishment simply does not give a fu*k. The black movement succeeded( and not even completed!) only by shoving its opinions in the white man's face. We must understand that the white man will only denounce racism I it is to his benefit; if there is no societal pressure, then there is no motivation.
Fellow asian men, no major group will willingly support us. We must be forceful, adamant, and sometimes assholes. Because otherwise, the next generation of asians will simply see pacific rim and wolverine-esque movies as the norm. The next generation should be out chance to move forward, and
not to remain trapped in a quagmire.
I didn't see Wolverine but I heard it was the same thing. White man kicking all Asian men's asses than hooking up with an Asian women. People can argue it all they want and say its our insecurity but if where are the movies where an Asian guy is kicking white men's asses then hooking up with a white girl after? That movie would never exist.
ReplyDeleteThe point is, Hollywood scripts are written by White men. They play out their fantasies by saving the Asian women from their unworthy Asian male mates. Weak minded insecure Asian women watch these movies and like propaganda they see this kind of union as ideal, after all it is in big blockbuster films.
Not true? Then look at hip hop. Since it's rise to popularity now its cool to fuck or date a black guy. Everyone wants to be a rapper or be black these days. Propaganda and media works. Nuff said