I’m sure all of us has experienced this at least ONCE. (Guys that
have played the dating game of course). You ask a girl out, have a
pleasant and fun date, you text her a few days after the first date and
ask her for a second date and then out of nowhere she poofs and
disappears and is never to be heard from again. You are left wondering,
WTF happened?
First let me define what a pleasant, great, fun, wonderful, successful first date is:
A pleasant first date is when you and the girl have obvious
chemistry, conversations are going well, with teasing, flirting, etc.
You both are having fun and you can almost always tell when the other
person is having fun. The pleasant first date also includes making out,
holding hands, or a simple kiss on the lips that last a few seconds.
How does this define pleasant? Because you know that she has physical
attraction for you or why else would she let you kiss her, let you
touch her, and hold hands with you? If this all happens are the first
date you most likely think “wow that was a great date. I kissed or made
out with her, held her hand, even touched her. She likes me.” Your so
sure you will see her again for a second date. But when the time comes
and you text her, NO RESPONSE. You let a few hours pass and still no
response. A few hours turns into a day, a day becomes a few days, a few
days turn into a whole week. Still NO RESPONSE. You wonder WTF happened?
You start googling things like:
why doesn’t a girl respond to your texts after a good date OR
when a girl ignores you after a great first date, etc. You
start mind fucking yourself for days wondering what ever happened. Did
you say something stupid, wait too long to contact her, did you have bad
breath, or you a bad kisser, etc. I know, because I’ve been there more
times then I would have liked but unfortunately when you play the dating
game, rejections comes in all forms. Even when your almost sure you had
her interested and wanting you. Nothing is ever certain, especially
when it comes to dating and women.
Recently I was on a date with a beautiful Asian girl (at least a 9 –
drop dead beautiful face and body and very feminine). The date went
well, almost immediately I steered the conversation into romantic
topics, got closer to her, put my arm around her waist, letting my
physical interest be known. Chemistry was good, she was more than happy
for a venue change during the date and we held hands and I leaned in and
gave her a kiss (few seconds, no tongue). She responded to it well and I
was the first one to pull away. Towards the end of the night I got a
little more aggressive with my kissing and touching but I never once
pushed too far (At least I didn’t think so). The surprising truth was I
didn’t want to have sex with this girl on the same night and I actually
was interested in her and perhaps would like to have date her more. I
restraint from going to far with my kissing and touching and dropped her
off and then went home. By all standards this was a pleasant date.
Waited 3 days before contacting her (note: i thought about her all
weekend but couldn’t bring myself to contact her too early. Did not want
to appear needy). I sent her a text and NO RESPONSE. Waited a few more
days and sent her another text. NO RESPONSE. I couldn’t believe it.
Everything went well on the first date and she would have had me fooled
if she said she wasn’t interested. But nothing…she never responded, not
even to tell me she wasn’t interested.
What happened? I couldn’t believe it. I actually felt like a beta for
a few days wondering and obsessing over what might have happened to
cause her not to respond to my text especially after such a pleasant
first date.
Then I realized one thing. NOTHING when it comes to Women is ever
certain. There are many reasons she may have not responded. Perhaps she
had a boyfriend and was dating me just to see what else was out there.
Perhaps she was bored and wanted a free drink that night. Perhaps her
friends cock-blocked me by saying negative things, perhaps she met
another guy the next day that she liked even more. My point is, it can
be a million reasons why she never responded. Also a rule of thumb is,
the more beautiful the girl is, the more chance she would never respond
to you after a first date because of all her high standards and the
constant rotation of guys trying to get a chance with her. Instead of
going through the torturous thought cycle on why a girl did not respond
to you after a pleasant first date, I made a few rules for myself.
1. Decide if this is a girl you would like to date and possibly get
into a mini or more serious relationship with. If your answer is yes
then:
- Do not push too hard physically on the first date. Make sure to kiss
her (for a few seconds ONLY and no tongue) during the middle of the
date and one more time at the end of the night when you are dropping her
off. (Never go past a few seconds and you must be the first to pull
away from the kiss. You want to appear respectful and leave her wanting
more…..which she will grant herself, when she grants you a second date
- Never get carried away with your touching. You must hold her hand,
or put your arm around her waist while sitting next to each other or
walking. You can rest your hand right above her ass (borderline the
small of her back and the beginning of her ass) while hugging or kissing
her, but make sure you never start rubbing or grabbing. Just rest your
hand there for a few seconds. Never start grabbing privates or molest
her too aggressively or you run the risk of scaring her off or give her
the impression that all you want is sex which you don’t want to do since
you want to date this girl and get a second date.
- Tell her at the end of night (when dropping her off) that you had
fun and would like to see her again. (and then gauge what her response
is and whether she appears interested in seeing you again). You do not
need to give her a date and time, that would be given when you text her.
Point is, you want her to know your interested in seeing her again so
she won’t think that your not interested in her.
- This one can be a little tricky. Don’t wait 2 or 3 days before
contacting her. (if she seems like the type of girl who doesn’t play
games) I say you can text her within 24 hours from the first date with
something simple like bringing up a funny or exciting moment during the
first date so you can get her to think about the fun date she had with
you and keep yourself fresh in her memory. It also shows that you are
thinking about her without appearing too needy but more importantly it
shows that you are not following the 2 or 3 day contact rule. I lost
some girls because I waited the 2 or 3 days before texting them. They
came to the conclusion that I was either playing games or was never
really interested and then cut me off. Like I said, this rule is a
tricky one. Use your best judgement on what kind of girl you think she
is but if you are genuinely interested in this girl I say text her
within 24 hours or 1 full day at most. Its better to let her know your
interested then losing her by not texting her in a timely fashion. If
she is genuinely interested in you, she will be more than happy to hear
from you.
- Come up with a fun idea for a second date and keep it simple by
inviting her to join you. Now all you gotta do is just wait for her
response.
If she doesn’t respond to your text for a second date after you
played the cards right (like the steps I mentioned above) then the fault
does not lie in you,
BUT THE FAULT IS IN HER. You did
everything a guy that is interested in dating a girl would do and now
you don’t have to worry and start obsessing if you messed up or not.
Just move onto the next girl with
NO REGRETS. There is
nothing worse then feeling regret when you felt like you messed up your
chances with a girl by doing something stupid. In this case, you can go
to sleep at night knowing you were a complete gentlemen and this girl
was the one who was playing games and not appreciating you so you can
easily forget about her. It’s her loss, not yours.
NOTE that these rules does not apply for girls your
NOT INTERESTED in dating more than just for sex. If you only want a girl
for the wet hole she has between her legs then you can push more
aggressively on the first date. If she responds for a second date that’s
great if not, who cares? You didn’t want anything else besides sex from
her anyways. Just move onto to the next wet hole.
TheLoneWolfTraveler presents:
When a Girl does not text you back after the first date Survival Guide
This guide was written solely based on my painful and interesting
experiences when girls didn’t respond to me after a great first date. I
also had a lot of run ins with girls that didn’t respond to my text
after they gave me their phone number.
It was tough dealing with it because I HAD NO CLUE WHY these girls
didn’t respond to my texts after a perceived fun date where we held
hands and kissed. How could a girl like you on a date and show you so
much interest and then suddenly disappeared into the thin air when you
texted afterwards?
Finding my way out of these dating and texting dilemmas, I came up
with a few rules and guidelines that I would stick to, to make sure I
made all the right moves, said and texted all the right things, to
increase my chances of hearing from a girl after a great first date.
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- Rules to follow to make sure your first date goes well
- How to handle the interaction with a girl after the first date
- How, when, and what to text (actual dialogue) her after the first date to ask her out for a second date
- How to handle and what to do when a girl does NOT RESPOND to your texts after the first date
- How to send a second text and even warn her to respond and if she doesn’t she will lose you forever
- When to know to walk away from a pursuit of a girl with NO REGRETS
- Discipline, class, and be a gentleman even in the face of defeat and come back a stronger man
- Tips and actual case scenarios from my personal first date experiences
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